Quilting reminds me of life. All sorts of colorful circumstances are thrown our way. We can’t choose these circumstances like we might as we choose colors in a quilt; but we can choose how we will respond to them. We can choose if we will learn from our circumstances or become embittered by them. We choose every day.
Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of his might. Ephesians 6:10
Our strength lies in Christ, not in ourselves. His strength never fails. His strength is mighty in power. He holds the universe in His hands.
I am as weak as a new born kitten. Some days I am drowning as I reach to hold on to my own strength and find nothing there to grasp. Thank God, I can be covered in His mighty strength.
But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. 2 Corinthians 12:9
Is it just me or are we living in an age where we are overwhelmed with life?
While trying to keep up with various doctor appointments , work, home management, self-care, family needs, and my child’s mental health needs I find myself frequently overwhelmed with life. I wear too many hats!
I must plan carefully what I can and can’t do. I need to give myself grace to accept limits in what I take on due to fluctuating energy levels and family drama/trauma. I need to learn to be flexible and bend or I will break. I need to learn to say ‘no’ to others without explanation. I need to refuse to bow down to other’s expectations of me or worry about my self-image. I need to know that just because something is good does not mean I need to participate in it. There are so many choices of things I can do with my time, but there is only one me and only 24 hours in a day.
So what’s a girl to do to remain sane? There is no easy formula, but here are some ways I have handled this in my life.
- What are my personal priorities in life? What fulfills me? What would satisfy me if it is the only thing I do today? What do I take pleasure in? Or what am I passionate about?
- What are my daily, weekly, monthly tasks right now? Is this important to me? Am I the only one who can do this or who else can help do this? Am I able to let someone else handle this even if it is not the way I would handle it?
- What does my significant other think about my priorities? Can they help me determine answers to any of these questions? When do I take ‘me’ time to relax and enjoy something fun for me? How often should I schedule ‘me-time’? And what about ‘us time’ – as a couple?
“Is it kind? Is it necessary? Is it true?”
The first time I heard these words it was from my friend Bonnie while I helped her teach the 5th and 6th grade girl’s Sunday School class. I was Bonnie’s leg, as she told me. Bonnie struggled with health issues for a while and when she had her leg amputated from the knee down she thought she would need help in the classroom. Boy, she was wrong! Those girls wanted to do everything they could to help Bonnie. They would fetch and pass papers. They would help clean up the room. They even wanted to help her decide on the color of her new prosthetic leg when they heard all the choices Bonnie had. Everyone wanted to be Bonnie’s leg.
As we neared November Bonnie wanted to carry on the special tradition of shopping as a class for Operation Christmas Child. Her 6th graders remembered the last year and the fun they had and they wondered if it would happen again this year. Bonnie didn’t want to be limited. She was brave and courageous. Together we decided to invite the girl’s to my home and we would have lunch and then go shopping. It was a crazy beautiful hectic day, but we did it. We managed to get everyone to the store in one piece. We pushed Bonnie around in her wheelchair and everyone found gifts for the shoe boxes.
Little did we know that Bonnie would have another health crisis and be taken home to glory within the next five months. Bonnie let a legacy with each of us. I remember her strength through trial. She praised God and wanted to share with me all that He was teaching her. That day never came. But she did teach me by example to trust God is at work during the HARD times.
Letting Bonnie go was one of the hardest things I have had to do. I lost a friend. I lost someone who understood and encouraged me. I lost potential for a closer relationship with Bonnie before entering some of the most difficult times of personal and spiritual struggle I have lived through. Bonnie taught me grace in the face of difficulty. God was so good in giving me time to get to know Bonnie and to learn from her.
So many times I am quick to judge and complain about others and events in my life. I stomp my feet in frustration and shed tears of indignity. I get frustrated with people. My anger grows at insensitive people. I may have no clue what these people are going through, but I know they have made my life a little bit more difficult today.
Lord, help me to be a leg for grace… “Is it kind? Is it necessary? Is it true?”
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Grace – the unmerited favor of God. It tugs at my heart and pulls me in.
The grace of God – offer salvation to all people
The grace of God – teaches me to say ‘No’ to things that are not of God or that will pull me away from God
The grace of God – corrects me and disciplines me to live a God- controlled life
The grace of God – free and unmerited gives me hope that God is at work in the messiness of life and He is at work redeeming me
For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation for all people, training us to renounce ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright, and godly lives in the present age, waiting for our blessed hope, the appearing of the glory of our great God and Savior Jesus Christ, who gave himself for us to redeem us from all lawlessness and to purify for himself a people for his own possession who are zealous for good works. Titus 2: 11-14 ESV